To the stranger who shouted at my son…

Dear Stranger,
I’m sorry that my 3 year old little boy apparently ruined your food shopping experience. When we go shopping his anxiety levels go up and he gets overwhelmed, which causes him to make repetitive loud noises… which do no harm.
Where as I can understand that these noises may sometimes be irritating to certain people around him, who aren’t necessarily use to it. These noises do no harm and are simply a way of him expressing his anxiety as his communication skills are limited.
I’m also sorry that you felt you had the right to turn around and shout at our little boy “Can you just shut up?? So we can all do our food shopping in piece”.
Clearly shouting at our 3 year old little boy wasn’t going to help the situation at all and if anything was just going to exasperate an already stressful time for him. Maybe you could of taken  a moment to just stand back and evaluate the situation at hand before being so quick to judge, then you could of chosen to deal with it differently or just not said anything at all.
Instead my partner found himself having to defend our little boy and in some way justify our sons behavior, when really its you that should of been trying to justify yours. My partner politely explained to you and managed in doing so to not swear even once, that our little boy has additional needs and was clearly upset and your outburst at our son was uncalled for and unhelpful.
Most people would think at this point you’d feel remorseful for how you’d acted. Now you’d be made fully aware of the situation, that maybe you’d want to apologise to us and our little boy. But nope you just stood there, not saying a word, you didn’t show a single ounce of compassion nor did you apologise.
Even thou you felt you didn’t need to apologise or maybe that we didn’t deserve one. I hope if this experience has taught you anything, its that may be things aren’t always what they seem. Think before deciding to act on a kid whose crying, making loud noises etc. Try and understand that Some children cant control there responses to certain situations and it isn’t anyones fault.
Yours Sincerely
An Upset Mum


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  1. November 1, 2016 / 5:12 pm

    I'm so sorry this happened. I can't believe that person actually shouted. He couldn't even see beyond his selfishness that your poor boy was upset as it is 🙁 I'm glad you and your partner didn't lose your cool.

  2. November 1, 2016 / 8:07 pm

    This happened to me on the train a couple of months ago and I took great pleasure in explaining the situation and telling the fellow traveller they were free to move away. They at least had the grace to look embarrassed. I feel a lot of pity for this shopper, if one small child is enough to hinder their ability to choose between crunchy and smooth peanut butter, they've got biiiiig problems…

  3. November 1, 2016 / 10:59 pm

    Whoah……how rude was she? My goodness, well done for staying calm, I would have told her where to go.

  4. November 2, 2016 / 5:54 am

    Wow what a nerve some people have! I hate food shopping it increases me anger but never would I shout at anyone especially a child x

  5. November 2, 2016 / 7:49 am

    Jeez these posts anger me so much lovely. Your poor lad and you. People are just horrible I think sometimes. The fact there was no apology confirms this. I hope they were feeling really guilty when you guys were calm and polite explaining. It's horrible but you are the better people for this and head can stay high. Thanks for sharing with -#bestandworst xx

  6. November 2, 2016 / 7:52 am

    That is very rude of her, perhaps she was having a bad day…….hopefully she will think before she speaks next time

  7. November 2, 2016 / 8:11 am

    OH MY GOD. Sod if she was having a bad day, I couldn't give a flying fig. We all have bad days but we don't have a go at another persons kid. I would literally have gone in on her, the red mist would've descended and my vicious tongue would've taken over. I feel sad that your partner had to justify the situation to this horrendous individual, because like you say, it should have been HER who apologised for her judgmental nastiness. OOOOOO I'm so angry! #bestandworst

  8. November 2, 2016 / 2:09 pm

    No way would somebody tell my kid to shut up and have my response not include major profanity. I congratulate your partner on their restraint #bestandworst

  9. November 2, 2016 / 9:30 pm

    I can't believe that anyone would be so rude and insensitive to do this, terrible behaviour. xx

  10. November 4, 2016 / 5:14 pm

    I cannot believe what this person did. I hope your son is OK and that they are feeling very guilty now

  11. November 8, 2016 / 7:26 am

    I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm disgusted by the behaviour of this person. I can't believe your partner stayed calm, I wouldn't have been able to do that! #bestandworst

  12. November 9, 2016 / 9:44 am

    It's not your problem it's theirs – silly silly person! #bestandworst

  13. November 9, 2016 / 9:45 am

    It's not your problem it's theirs – silly silly person! #bestandworst

  14. September 17, 2017 / 2:56 pm

    I’m sorry you and your family had to experience this. We went through something similar once, when a random stranger – a big man – started shouting at my son when we were sitting by the river on a sunny day. My son and I were shaken and I couldn’t speak…it’s so upsetting and some people just don’t think xx

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